When we regularly sit and quiet our mind, the arising of emotion is inevitable. Father Thomas Keating calls it divine therapy. He suggests that our inner room is the divine office of the therapist who is God.
There is no question that stilling the mind creates internal space, and sometimes what arises in that space are emotions that still need to be integrated. Unintegrated emotion - emotional content that has been repressed or ignored - can be quite problematic, even leading to conditions like chronic pain and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
So a large part of the contemplative journey is learning face our emotions, especially in the context of meditation or silent prayer. Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche likens it to sitting with the heart of a warrior.
Negotiating Waves of Emotional Energy
My partner has been listening to some recorded talks by Pema Chodron. I happened to hear a short piece from one of those talks the other day. In it, she talks about facing emotion like waves in an ocean, an analogy she originally heard from Trungpa Rinpoche. I've been thinking about this for a couple of days now. Here is my elaborated interpretation of what I think she is saying.
Imagine you're standing in the ocean about six feet from the edge of the shore. The day is hazy and the seas are rough. Suddenly, a giant wave knocks you backwards. The undertow is so powerful it pulls you under. For a while, you're floundering in the ocean depths, not knowing whether you'll live or die.
This is what emotion is like to the untrained mind. It pulls us under to the point that we have no real control over what is happening. It's only by a miracle that we find our way back to life again.
Now imagine that you're standing in the ocean about six feet from the edge of the shore and a giant wave knocks you backwards, but this time you remember how powerful the undertow is. It may still pull you under for a moment, but you manage to escape it's pull and get back on your feet. There's sand in your eyes and your mouth and your ears, but you're okay.
This is what emotion is like when we've had some experience looking at it with our eyes wide open. We know how insidious its pull can be. We watch the way we ruminate. We know we've been sucked in. Yet we also know we can break the spell. It might take some time, but we do manage to find our way back.
Now imagine you're standing in the ocean about six feet from the edge of the shore and a giant wave knocks you backward, but you get right back on your feet. You still have sand in your eyes, but the wave didn't pull you under this time.
This is what emotion is like when we simply face it with the heart of a warrior. It's entirely possible another wave will come and another and another, each one knocking us down completely, but we don't stay down long and we don't get pulled under either.
Now imagine you're standing in the ocean about six feet from the edge of the shore and a giant wave appears and you turn around and ride it all the way to back to shore. You jump to your feet, give a little shout, and run right back out to ride the next wave.
This is what emotion is like when we begin to appreciate its energy. We understand that emotion has intelligence. It's trying to tell us something. If we open our hearts and ride its energy, we might learn something important about ourselves. The emotion is fully integrated.
Finally, imagine you're standing in the ocean about six feet from the edge of the shore and all you see are small waves gently tickling your belly.
This is what emotion is like when we've done the work of integration. Now our emotions are a total gift. Even the difficult ones tickle us gently inside. This energy we once feared has become the stuff of life, a source of endless joy.
This is not to say, of course, that our subconscious mind is finished with us. It may still have more material to throw our way. The vicissitudes of life may knock us off our feet again. Yet, having gone through the process a number of times now, so we have the knowledge and internal resources to help us stand back up again.
And remember...the divine therapist is always standing by.
I recently watched a great video by Teal Swan about healing the emotional body. I recommend you watch it if you'd like to learn more about integrating emotion.
And here's another great video by Father Thomas Keating on the process of divine therapy.